Maybe you sense your husband doesn't make it easy on you to workout. You could be right. Your husband might like you bigger because a) if you get thin, you might leave him and/or b) maybe he doesn’t want to deal with his own health and weight issues. Guys, does this sound like you?
Your friends might secretly like when you’re heavier because they have always gotten the attention from being the thin one. Do they always seem to insist on dessert even when you've said no three times??
Guys, are your girlfriends/wives secretly trying to make it hard for you to workout or further your career? Maybe it's because they fear you'll lust after someone else or leave them alone all the time. Are you one of those women?
This agenda may not be coming from malicious intent; your coterie may not even know they're doing it. These subtleties could be coping mechanisms.
I'm not suggesting that you get rid of the relationships in your life. I'm suggesting that you learn to set boundaries. Maybe you limit the time you’re spending with a saboteur, or perhaps you can pick different activities. Instead of meeting your friends for dinner, why not make plans to go roller blading or an art event?
It may be tougher to "limit the time" with your significant other but you can change the activities you do together. If you sense your significant other is subtly challenging your new habits, talk about it or better yet, include them.
Instead of dinner plans, why not go hit a bucket of balls at the driving range? Be aware of the subtle things that are happening and suggestions that will take you down the wrong track.
You need to get through the rocky transition period. Often times, when you start setting an example for a while, people around you start to follow you in your healthy habits.
It's much more powerful to lead by example than to preach and prod.
We didn't get a chance to cover this in depth in the weight loss boot camp but we'll be going into this - in depth - in the coaching program to give you strategies in getting through the "rocky transition", how to set boundaries and that "no" is a complete sentence, because it's not easy.
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