Why is it that every time I go out with friends I eat more than I do when I'm alone? I've read the studies and I do know you eat 40% more with friends than when you're alone but what am I going to do, stay home and never go to a restaurant again?
The other night, while out with my friends for sushi, I ordered my "usual", a small salad, two slices of sashimi and a salmon/avocado roll. The sushi came and went, and a friend of mine looks over and remarks, "That's all you're going to have? Come on, let's order something more substantial. How about a volcano roll?"
A volcano roll is about twice the size of my stomach, and three times the size of a typical roll. It's filled with 3 types of fish, shrimp tempura (deep fried) and it's "exploding" with calories. 388 calories in a roll and that's without the shrimp tempura. Here's more info about what's in it and the Weight Watchers Points. Instead of saying no, I replied with, "Sure, why not." After the volcano roll, another friend said, "Dessert?" She looks at my waist and says, "YOU can definitely have dessert." So what do I do? I order the milky way mousse pie. I ended up with triple the food I normally have! How did this happen?
Why are we so reluctant to just say no? Why is it so much easier to go along? Joshua Wayne will be discussing the fact that NO is a complete sentence in our third bootcamp call and I'm looking forward to it. (By the way, ff you'd like to sign up for our four weekly telephone sessions, please click here; we're having our 2nd session tonight.
While I haven't learned to say no, I did use a few strategies that we'll be discussing in call 2. I only had three pieces of the volcano roll and three bites of dessert. But more importantly, I'm looking forward to the next time, where I build up my skills to respond, "No thanks. I think I'll order some evening tea."
I had that problem the other night. The waitress in this case was the problem. She said it was cheaper to get three. I had a few bites and then left the rest. I felt so guilty I got talked into that dessert. Next time, I going to say I my stomach is upset. It seems people are more sympathetic to health problems than the truth, No.
Posted by: Maggie | July 23, 2009 at 04:14 PM
i am also learning to say noooo..... its not sushi but its still hard. i am proud of my self i drank quite a bit the other day at the river and the next day i had a sweet tooth... i made it though. i mashed 2 bananas put 1/2 tsp vanilla froze it tadah...so sweet..so yummie and i dont even like bananas. oh yeah 1/8 tsp cinn.,1/8tsp nutmeg
Posted by: lillie | June 29, 2009 at 06:00 PM
i have a more easier time when it comes to turning down this and that. i'm a type ii diabetic, and even though i'm not obese, i use it to my advantage at family gatherings and out with friends. it's even gotten to the point friends and family will even speak up and say.. "oh, she can't have that, she's diabetic". frankly, i can have whatever the heck i want, but that excuse has been wonderful for me to use! lol
Posted by: {cher} | June 03, 2009 at 09:41 AM