It's not an exaggeration when I say the day I stumbled upon Peertrainer was a day that changed my life. I've always struggled with my weight, always thought I was eating healthy (a thought that was encouraged by nutritionists I saw who encouraged the idea that pasta, chicken and dairy are "health" foods...), and could never understand why I kept gaining weight despite being relatively disciplined.
The daily tips fixed some major holes in my nutritional strategy - for example, the first tip I received from you is to focus on the one thing that trips me up. I knew that I was generally good at portion control (or so I thought), but whenever I cook a fresh pot of something, about twice a week, I keep nibbling on it for a while after I finish my meal. I decided to focus on that, and discovered that when I don't nibble, the pot suddenly produces around 8 meals instead of the usual 6 - I was actually "nibbling" two extra meals twice a week!
Next, the Cheat System provided me with a simple and easy strategy to lose weight. I didn't really have to give up anything, just limit whatever is on the right column to a 1000 calories per day, and more importantly increase the amount of vegetables and legumes in my diet. I cooked sweet potatoes and chickpeas, and bought a bunch of bags of peeled mini-carrots, and I was good to go. I lost 14 lbs in a little over 3 months. Not only that, but I felt healthier and more energized than I ever felt even when I was 18 (I'm 34 now). Even my eyesight, that was starting to deteriorate, all of the sudden became perfect again. Probably saved me a lot of money on getting prescription glasses..."
2 Reasons This Email Is Important
The email keeps going but we want to keep this post short and simply point out that this is a GREAT email because it outlines very clearly the power of getting out of "conventional diet food" mindset. We hammer away at this idea because it is so embedded in people's minds that they eat "diet foods." We have a controversial suggestion- if you are eating anything that is labeled low calorie or 100 calorie snack pack stuff- that is a strong indicator that you are going to struggle.
For whatever reason, people are resistant to making this shift, but when they do things change.
It also shows how the (free) PEERtrainer Cheat System helps to provide a simple way to eat a plant strong, nutrient dense diet.
We are also posting this to show people that if they follow the Cheat System, good things can happen.
Additionally, it is a great example of the power of the free resources at PEERtrainer. Good advice and help is the best support you can get!
Last night I was talking to someone about some of the stuff I had been reading recently in "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People." I had read this book before many years ago, and for some reason decided to pick it back up. (I'm very glad I did, and the reason for this post is to share something from that with you.)
I was really excited about a particular exercise that helps you figure out what you really want in life. It had a deep impact on me personally and I wanted to share this great insight.
This person mentioned that she had tried the book years ago but she just couldn't get into it.
But curiosity got the best of her. "Ok, tell me, tell me, I want to do the exercise you are talking about."
So I said here is the exercise, "You've just arrived at a close friend's funeral. You look around and you see a lot of your friend's family, mutual friends you've known over the years. Maybe you see some people from their job.
And some people they've played bridge with, or maybe tennis. You're filled with an emotional charge in the room and you move towards the casket. You look down and you see your own face."
The author asks you, "Now think deeply. What would like each of these speakers to say about you and your life? What kind of husband, wife, father or mother would you like their words to reflect? What kind of daughter? What kind of friend? What kind of working associate?
What character would you like them to have seen in you? Look carefully around you. What difference would you like to have made in their lives? As you answer some of these questions, you see what personally drives you and how you want to live.
Then I said, "Isn't this just wild? It's so powerful".
She responded by saying "That's nice. It's just really not for me."
I was shocked. I thought, how could this not be for you? This was one of the fastest ways I've seen to get to the core of who you are without having to actually go through a life-changing event.
Then I realized, oh. This must be too heavy. To actually contemplate your death.
But her answer was totally unexpected.
She said, "It's too late for me. There's no point in doing this. Maybe 20 years ago. But it's too late."
I was stunned at this answer, and I just felt the tears coming out of my eyes.
I thought, how could she think this way? How can I help her change her perspective? I see people change their lives every day at 30, 40, 50, 60, 70, even 80.
Every single day.
Every day, I see someone get out of pain. I see someone change the entire course of their lives. I see 45 year olds with better bodies than they had before they were pregnant. Forget before they were pregnant, better than they had just out of college.
I see 50 year olds run marathons after only starting to run at 48. I literally can feel the excitement jump off the page when someone has lost 10 pounds after trying for 4 years.
So my question to you is this: do you feel like it's too late?
Have you lost all of your drive, really your hope of getting what you want because it's just too late?
I need you to do something today. You have the entire day to do it.
I want you to think of someone, a family member, someone you work with, someone you know who completely defies the notion that it's too late.
If you can't think of anyone, look around when you're on your errands today. It could even be on the grocery line.
You will find someone. I guarantee it.
And it will be the first seed to plant the thought and the belief that it's not too late to get what you want.
PS: Please share your thoughts with us on this PEERtrainer Community Thread:
The other day I received an email from a tip of the day subscriber, a mom of 2 that explained how she would love to find the time to workout but she was just too tired.
"I wake up at 5:30, make the lunches, make the breakfast for everyone, dash off to bathe, get dressed to head off to my job by 8am. I finally return home at 6:00 just to help with the homework, settle the kids into the bedtime routine, head back over to the kitchen to make dinner for my husband and I to literally crawl into bed by 10:00 just to do it all over again.
I am from a culture where the woman carries most of the cooking load but I also have a full time job. I know working out and eating better would help me, but I'm just so tired. It's everything I can do to just manage the day to day life that frankly, I don't even know where I would find the five minutes to take this delicious walk you speak of, and my breakfast apple fritter gives me the sugar boost I need to carry me through the morning meetings."
You don't need to be a mom of 2 with her exact setup to understand the situation all too well. I've seen the same tone of emails from university students who have mid-terms, papers and senior thesis and have to deal with foreign food environments, to a man who works double shifts and relies on the vending machines at work.
The one common thread is this:
I really want to make a change but I'm just too exhausted. I can barely keep it together as it is, add one more thing and I'm just going to lose it.
You're in a chicken and egg conundrum. You're probably tired because you the lack of nutrients and oxygen your body craves but you're not making the right choices because you're so tired.
You've got to stop the cycle.
How Stop Being So Tired By "Scratching Your CD"
The best way to stop any cycle is to make a small chip in the rhythm.
Think of it like playing a CD (luckily with mp3's this isn't an issue, but it used to be), the smallest scratch can disrupt the entire song. I want you to make a scratch on your CD cycle of exhaustion. I don't want you to do it tomorrow. I'd like you to do it now, or in the next few hours at your next opportunity.
It can be the slightest change to your rhythm. It can be literally, eating a tomato at lunch today, something you don't normally do. Maybe it's taking a walk and deliver the message personally to a colleague on a different floor instead of just clicking send.
Perhaps you put on your tennis shoes right when you get home from work or class just so you have more of a spring in your step. Maybe you'll do all three! I don't care what it is, but do something to scratch the CD. Even one scratch can produce a different song. One scratch might only mess up one verse, but that one scratch will lead to a few more and scratch up the entire cycle.
Here's the best part: I've seen countless people have more energy to change the overwhelm and create a completely different life for themselves, just from taking this one step. My "CD scratch" was to have a salad at lunch that day.
Another change you can make is to take a look at your diet and over time see if you can identify the foods that give you energy and those that don't. If you are following the PEERtrainer Cheat System, even a little bit, know that the foods on the left side of the list generally help promote energy at a cellular level. The foods on the right tend not to. This is a huge oversimplification, but the net effect of following that system is usually an increase in energy.