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A Simple Tip To Improve The Quality Of Your Life

People often say that thoughts become things- but questions are what help determine our thoughts.

Successful people simply ask better questions. If you ask better questions, you get better answers. When you have better answers, you make better decisions. Better decisions lead to better results.

The quality of your life improves.

Now, you may be thinking, "ok that makes sense, but how do I do this?" We will tell you!

You have often heard the suggestion or saying "ask and ye shall receive." It's true.

Think for a second about something you want and what you are willing to do to get that.

Maybe ask a question that will put you in a better mood in an instant- what are you happy, proud, grateful, excited about? 

Once you are in a better mood you can then really start to focus on what you want.

An Exercise/Process To Help You Ask Better Questions:

• Set out to ask four questions about that thing that you want.
• What is in your way?
• How are you limiting yourself?
• What can get you to that goal?
• Who can help you?

Asking questions can get you anything you want. When you ask the right questions, and write them down you then have a plan. When you have a plan, you have instantly increased the odds that you will get what you what. Or at a minimum you will have increased your belief in your ability to get what you want.

We do a lot work at PEERtrainer to help people increase their belief in their ability to gain control of their health and energy for the long term. Our focus is to help you gain hope, increase your optimism. What is interesting about this focus is that you can get to this point, and start nurturing this, without sticking to a stringent plan.

Someone yesterday posted this comment on our Facebook Wall:

"I'm on Jenny Craig and Weight Watchers. But I can't stay on the program. It seems... I keep nibbling at night and sometimes I want to binge eat."

Our whole point, and something that we keep coming back to over and over and over is that for many people when they can't "stay on the program" it leads to some very destructive behaviors. We tell people to think in terms of "tools" and not "programs."

You want to gather as big a set of tools as you can, you want to think long term, and you MUST go easy on yourself.

To use an academic term, our "thesis" is to think about your path to health and energy in terms of a journey. Step one is to simply commit to being on it. You don't need to achieve total mastery right out of the gate. That's nuts!

In this journey you also want to have an objective. We use the term "Point Of No Return" because it is so helpful to have some sort of objective. To us, the objective of this term is to get to a place where you are in a lot more control.

It is GREAT place to be, and WORTH the work it takes to get there.

People have responded to this concept, and really embraced it. If you think about it, so many traditional diet approaches are akin to pushing a beach ball under water. Obviously the ball will bounce right back up.

But when you think in terms of the journey, you break it down into a small series of adjustments. This changes your whole mindset. Maybe an email comes to you with an article with an idea, just like this one, and you get back on track. Or you try a new adjustment. But you enjoy it.

For those of you who are just "following along at home" you can nurture this same sense of of hope and belief. Even if you do just one thing a day or a week, you will remain on the journey.

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You will get there. We promise!

 

PS, If you found this post inspiring or helpful, this article is related and can help you build upon this idea.

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Weekend Immersion Program With Dr. Fuhrman In Princeton, NJ January 14-16

Click the arrow on the following video to learn more about Dr. Fuhrman's Weekend Immersion Program:

We have been asked about getting a discount for Dr. Joel Furhman's upcoming Weekend Immersion Program January 14-16th in Princeton NJ.

There is a 15% percent off discount available until November 30th.

In addition, Dr. Furhman Online is offering PEERtrainer members a $50 off coupon that is good from October 16th to October 31st.

Simply use the coupon code "PEERTRAINER" at the check out page.

Here is the link to learn more:

http://drfuhrman.com/events/princeton_immersion/princeton_weekend_immersion.aspx

 

New Article By Joshua Wayne: Let Your Light Shine!

Joshua's newest article ends with this great quote from Nelson Mandela:

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us most. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and famous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world.

There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that people won't feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in all of us. And when we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."

- Nelson Mandela in his inaugural address, 1994 

read the full article: http://www.peertrainer.com/let_your_light_shine.aspx

Do You Feel Like It's Too Late For You To Get What You Want?

By Jackie Wicks, PEERtrainer Co-Founder

Last night I was talking to someone about some of the stuff I had been reading recently in "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People." I had read this book before many years ago, and for some reason decided to pick it back up. (I'm very glad I did, and the reason for this post is to share something from that with you.)

I was really excited about a particular exercise that helps you figure out what you really want in life. It had a deep impact on me personally and I wanted to share this great insight.

This person mentioned that she had tried the book years ago but she just couldn't get into it.

But curiosity got the best of her. "Ok, tell me, tell me, I want to do the exercise you are talking about."

So I said here is the exercise, "You've just arrived at a close friend's funeral. You look around and you see a lot of your friend's family, mutual friends you've known over the years. Maybe you see some people from their job.

And some people they've played bridge with, or maybe tennis. You're filled with an emotional charge in the room and you move towards the casket. You look down and you see your own face."

The author asks you, "Now think deeply. What would like each of these speakers to say about you and your life? What kind of husband, wife, father or mother would you like their words to reflect? What kind of daughter? What kind of friend? What kind of working associate?

What character would you like them to have seen in you? Look carefully around you. What difference would you like to have made in their lives? As you answer some of these questions, you see what personally drives you and how you want to live.

Then I said, "Isn't this just wild? It's so powerful".

She responded by saying "That's nice. It's just really not for me."

I was shocked. I thought, how could this not be for you? This was one of the fastest ways I've seen to get to the core of who you are without having to actually go through a life-changing event.

Then I realized, oh. This must be too heavy. To actually contemplate your death.

But her answer was totally unexpected.

She said, "It's too late for me. There's no point in doing this. Maybe 20 years ago. But it's too late."

I was stunned at this answer, and I just felt the tears coming out of my eyes.

I thought, how could she think this way? How can I help her change her perspective? I see people change their lives every day at 30, 40, 50, 60, 70, even 80.

Every single day.

Every day, I see someone get out of pain. I see someone change the entire course of their lives. I see 45 year olds with better bodies than they had before they were pregnant. Forget before they were pregnant, better than they had just out of college.

I see 50 year olds run marathons after only starting to run at 48. I literally can feel the excitement jump off the page when someone has lost 10 pounds after trying for 4 years.

So my question to you is this: do you feel like it's too late?

Have you lost all of your drive, really your hope of getting what you want because it's just too late?

I need you to do something today. You have the entire day to do it.

I want you to think of someone, a family member, someone you work with, someone you know who completely defies the notion that it's too late.

If you can't think of anyone, look around when you're on your errands today. It could even be on the grocery line.

You will find someone. I guarantee it.

And it will be the first seed to plant the thought and the belief that it's not too late to get what you want.

-Jackie

PS: Please share your thoughts with us on this PEERtrainer Community Thread:

http://www.peertrainer.com/LoungeCommunityThread.aspx?ForumID=1&ThreadID=171072

"Positive Psychology" and Stopping Weight Loss Self Sabotage

This is an email that Joshua was sent a couple days ago:

 

"I just read your article on how to stop self sabotaging your weight loss efforts and I have one word. - Excellent.!!!I am a physician and I appreciate the positive psychology  in the article."

 

Here is the article:

A very common question I get asked by the people I work with is “how can I stop my self-sabotage?”  They typically have a lot of frustration with themselves for not following through with their weight loss plan and they often feel hopeless that their situation will never change. 

So if you feel like you keep sabotaging yourself for one reason or another, there are specific things can you do right now to get un-stuck and on track. It might be helpful to get a pen out right now, and write down some notes as you go through this guide. After you have written down some answers to the questions here, maybe pick on thing this week to work on.

First Steps:

The first thing you want to do is identify why you keep doing this.   If you don’t have a clear idea, then it’s hard to come up with the right solution.

In order to understand your "self-sabotage pattern", I’m going to ask you a very important (and maybe a little unusual) question. If you take a few moments to sit with this and really chew on the question, you will find that it’s very powerful and it can actually help you in many areas of your life .

What has to be true in your life in order for you to sabotage your weight loss efforts?

Read that a second time if you have to.  It’s actually a basic logic equation.  In order for a behavior like self-sabotage to be true in your life (and if you’ve read this far, then I’m assuming it is), then what belief MUST you be carrying that allows that self-sabotaging behavior to exist. If you sabotage yourself, then something else MUST be true in your life that allows that to happen.

I assure you this is not as complex as it sounds, and I really encourage you to take a moment to digest it. If you understand what that thing is, you will understand your self-sabotage, and you can then start taking the steps to reverse it.  

Keep reading: http://www.peertrainer.com/how_to_stop_self_sabotage.aspx